Proper Toothbrushing

I brought up four boys of my own and I do the best to inculcate good habits in them from an early age - what they are thankful for today, now that they are all healthy young men .
I have always insisted they brush their teeth properly and because they had paid little to do with the dentist.
In particular, I brush them the minute they got home from school (not ideal because it was not immediately after the meal they ate there, but the school does not provide toothpaste and brushes as they * should *).
I insist on my son grandchildren did the same thing and they were fine with it, but now my daughter-in-law says they are "overbrushing" and first thing in the morning and last thing at night is fine . This has arisen because my eldest grand-son (8) began to challenge me on the school said after brushing teeth (and other things) lately and his mother to drop it.I am worried for him and his brothers (7 and 3) teeth and want their brush.
Should I Stand My Ground

I would find a common ground. It is, after all, their parents. But I agree with you that good habits should start at a young age to explain that it is your concern, not to go "against her will" ... compromise a brushing schedule you feel comfortable with both! The important thing is these young children brush their teeth on a regular basis, you can congratulate you both on this accomplishment!

I think maybe you should respect the parents wishes in this respect. It will only cause drama ... and on what? Teeth that are probably well over two brushings per day. Of course, it is ideal for brushing teeth after every meal, but for most people, it is simply not realistic. You raised your children and I am sure that you have raised well. Now it is time for your children to bring their own, without interference.

and after school is a bit like, but its ok. there is no thought as I mean to go over brushing brush in the afternoon and if they brush in the night and morning, it's not over brushing is the right amount. I compermise with children. they do not want to do right after school say ok, but they will not be a snack or another until they do. say they will get an additional reward when they brush their teeth, but they must do so while they are with you to get the reward. I think or try to find away to make it fun. You brush your teeth with them too and make funny faces as we know everyone toothpaste around the mouth, so to see what funny faces you can do while on your faces.
ok good luck.

I think that brushing twice a day is plenty.

It is very important. if u do it now, theyre teeth and gums can rot (ewwwwwww)

Is one of those difficult areas. Even if you are concerned and have good reasons for your point of view, it is the parents decided what is appropriate for their children. You sound like a very loving grandparent who wants the best, but pushing the issue could cause more problems than you expect, especially if your stepdaughter feels right to you stop in. I talk to him and let him know the oldest is having the problems that challenge you on the other and let them know what your plan is. Make sure she knows that if you do not set appropriate limits and consequences that continue to do so and it is difficult to take care of him. She also knows that it is a matter of being respected in your home and if you think it is necessary to do so ...... The other stuff I'd drop, no matter how you feel. When I raised these concerns with my dentist told me he at least 2x a day would be sufficient.

Number one, I agree with your daughter-in-law. It is not necessary to brush three times a day. Over time, it will make the gums recede, and wear.